Safety or alarm, I can never decide which.
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When somebody runs you a bath and orders a takeaway after a long day.
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It feels healthy and it makes your body tingle and you feel excited to be alive.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 26 February 2022 source ↗
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Like the froth on top of a hot chocolate.
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Trying to think of a recipe I’ve forgotten. I keep a notebook by my bed now.
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Wake Me Up Before You Go-Go by Wham!
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My children’s births, and when I won the Bake Off.
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A very expensive dehydrator (it cost £30). I’ve made raisins, banana chips and apple chips with it so far. It’s so addictive, I’ll probably start drying my kids soon.
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My little sister Yasmin. She’s got congenital heart disease, but continues to smile regardless.
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