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People’s need to feel superior to others. All it does is cause judgment and hate.
Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, April 2025 source ↗
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Bullying, whether face to face or online.
Looking down at other people. I was brought up to treat people as you treat yourself, with respect. The people you meet on the way up are the people you meet on the way down.
Trolling, meanness and male violence.
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Honesty, trustworthiness, and a deep understanding of emotions.
I have a lot to be grateful for, but right now, being married. Having time to be with my husband and his children. I feel very grateful.
A peaceful, joyous time in the world…or in my head.
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