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I hate it when my little brothers don't close their mouths when they're eating.
Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, July 2019 source ↗
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Jealousy. It’s the thief of joy.
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Being judgmental – how dare they!
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I had two options. One was to remain silent and wait to be killed. And the second was to speak up and then be killed. I chose the second one. I decided to speak up.
Being grateful for what you have.
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Biting my nails.
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