Bullying, flakiness, rudeness, lack of humility, being patronising and ungenerous.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 27 April 2024 source ↗
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What is the trait you most deplore in others?
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I can’t bear people who lie.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 28 September 2024 source ↗
Lack of humility, the absence of goodness.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 2 November 2024 source ↗
After the third time someone’s late, we can’t be friends any more.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 9 November 2024 source ↗
Not being able to laugh at themselves.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 26 April 2025 source ↗
Aggression. Anger. Rudeness. Intolerance. Lack of understanding. Pretty much your average day on X.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 11 October 2025 source ↗
An inability to see the other side.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 4 July 2026 source ↗
Coldness, selfishness.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 1 August 2026 source ↗
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