Their responsibility to the friendship.
What do you value most in your friends?
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What is the thing you are best at that nobody watching can see?
Craft & work
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What is the trait you most deplore in others?
Values & belief
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Which living person do you most admire, and why?
Values & belief
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If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
Identity & self
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How would you like to die?
Death & what remains
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What is your idea of perfect happiness?
Identity & self
Originally asked
Vanity Fair, to its interview subject, The Proust Questionnaire
A fixed Vanity Fair Proust Questionnaire item asked across its three-decade archive, with independent variants in friendship and profile interviews.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
That they get it.
The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 1 December 2012 source ↗
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View all 65 →Compassion. Wisdom. Wit. The delicate balance of knowing when I need tough love and when I need support. Plus, call me crazy, but I’m also partial to friends who don’t surreptitiously record our calls.
Discretion and good cheer.
It’s hard to narrow it down, because I want them to have a bit of everything—humor, kindness, integrity, intelligence, tolerance (they need lots of that). But if I had to choose just one it would probably be loyalty.
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View profile →My most important rule is one that sums up the 10: if it sounds like writing, I rewrite it.
Guys who use the word “snot.”
Peyton Manning.
Convince myself that walking two miles a day isn’t boring.
Does it make a difference? You’re dead.
Being with my best friend, who’s a girl.
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