Taking daily showers and always being there when I need them.
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Compassion. Wisdom. Wit. The delicate balance of knowing when I need tough love and when I need support. Plus, call me crazy, but I’m also partial to friends who don’t surreptitiously record our calls.
The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 12 August 2021 source ↗
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That they get it.
Seeing and being seen.
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