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Vanity Fair, to its interview subject, The Proust Questionnaire
A fixed Vanity Fair Proust Questionnaire item asked across its three-decade archive, with independent variants in friendship and profile interviews.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
Unselfishness. I like to surround myself with people who are kind and have feelings for others and their problems.
The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 25 November 2001 source ↗
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Loyalty. Not fawning, but a loyalty based on our shared love and history that fosters compassion and forgiveness.
Their willingness to have me as a friend.
Being able to share a confidence.
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In Macon, Georgia, during my childhood. I knew everybody there—it was like the whole town was your family. I felt complete there.
To be taller. I’ve been looking up at certain people all my life. If I was taller, I could look down and see them a lot better.
Selfishness—people who don’t care about others or their feelings and will do or say anything as long as they get what they want.
I don’t want to be lost and burn in hell.
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