The ability to be themselves rather than hiding behind a mask.
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Originally asked
Vanity Fair, to its interview subject, The Proust Questionnaire
A fixed Vanity Fair Proust Questionnaire item asked across its three-decade archive, with independent variants in friendship and profile interviews.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
Being there for each other during good times and bad.
The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 2 September 2025 source ↗
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View all 65 →Unselfishness. I like to surround myself with people who are kind and have feelings for others and their problems.
Their humor and that they are smarter than I, but not by too much.
Sally Field
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That they won’t let me hide.
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View profile →Losing family, friends, and loved ones.
Gabby Giffords. She’s a survivor of gun violence and a relentless champion of sensible gun safety measures.
Procrastinating. I saved answering this questionnaire until the very last minute.
Being judgmental.
Playing the Cowardly Lion in our fourth-grade production of The Wizard of Oz. Thank you, Mr. Riccobono.
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