Kareem Abdul-Jabbar
Basketball player and author
Loyalty. Not fawning, but a loyalty based on our shared love and history that fosters compassion and forgiveness.
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Which living person do you most admire, and why?
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When were you happiest?
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Originally asked
Vanity Fair, to its interview subject, The Proust Questionnaire
A fixed Vanity Fair Proust Questionnaire item asked across its three-decade archive, with independent variants in friendship and profile interviews.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
A willingness to come uptown.
The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 1 May 2011 source ↗
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Judy Blume
Novelist
I love that my true friends don’t think of me as that Judy, but as the Judy they’ve known for years, a woman, like them. And I love their senses of humor.
Their willingness to have me as a friend.
Rafael Nadal
Spanish professional tennis player, 2001–2024
The word says it all. To be a friend means that they are always there, for the good or the bad.
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A glass of wine at sunset on Fire Island. / No homework.
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People who are proud of their ignorance.
Anywhere, during the 2 to 24 hours after a successful joke.
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