Conflict aversion.
Recorded Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, October 2024 source ↗
Which trait do you most dislike in yourself?
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What most recently made you cry?
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What does love feel like?
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What is the trait you most deplore in others?
Values & belief
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What is the worst thing anyone has said to you?
Failure & regret
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Who most deserves an apology from you, and why?
Failure & regret
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What would you like to be remembered for?
Death & what remains
Originally asked
The Guardian, to a different person each week, The Q&A
The Guardian's The Q&A has retained this Proust-derived prompt from at least 2007 through 2026, and ABC independently put it to the Obamas in 2011.
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I’m incredibly patient with a lot of stuff, but incredibly impatient with other things. I deplore the impatient side.
The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 6 July 2024 source ↗
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I don’t think anyone should deplore anything about themselves. You can always improve things, but by deploring you’re putting yourself on a losing streak.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 15 April 2023 source ↗
I wish I could be more patient. I always want things to get done or happen now.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 3 February 2024 source ↗
Insecurity around money. I have this profound insecurity about not having enough to provide for my family.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 10 May 2025 source ↗
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View profile →When my son got into art school.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 6 July 2024 source ↗
It’s just this warm whoosh that goes through you and starts just below the navel area, the pit of your tum.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 6 July 2024 source ↗
I have a hard time with people who are manipulative.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 6 July 2024 source ↗
“Everyone hates you.” (My manager, a long time ago.)
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 6 July 2024 source ↗
If I’m ever out of line, I’m very quick to apologise and try to make amends.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 6 July 2024 source ↗
Having a few songs that outlive you is a nice way to be remembered.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 6 July 2024 source ↗
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