I wish I’d told my mother that, in all the years I knew her, she was never once boring. We weren’t demonstrative, so that would have meant that I loved her.
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View all 209 →To everyone who has been out with me and had to deal with my lack of emotional maturity.
To my parents for all the mess-ups. There have been times when I’ve been going through something and I’ve thought, God, I’m so glad my mum and dad are dead, because they don’t have to go through it with me.
To my first real boyfriend, for being so mean to him. But really I was just being mean to myself.
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My father, because he’s never run away from anything.
Swimming off the north Cornish coast eight years ago. I remember thinking, “Why did they teach you how to inflate your pyjamas in life-saving classes at school, when they could have just told you what to do in a riptide?”
As I get older, I get happier.
Funerals are for the people left behind, so I don’t mind.
Like you are standing with an army.
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