Patricia Hodge: Who most deserves an apology from you, and why?

Who most deserves an apology from you, and why?

Originally asked

The Guardian, to a different person each week, The Q&A

A fixed Guardian Q&A prompt asked directly across respondents and years.

You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.

Recorded Patricia Hodge said elsewhere, not written here

I wish I could say sorry to my husband, because I couldn’t save him from his dementia.

The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 8 September 2018 source ↗

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Marina Abramović Performance artist

To myself. I am my harshest critic.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 5 October 2024 source ↗

Bernadine Evaristo English author and academic

The people I never thanked for what they selflessly gave me in my career; when I was younger I just took it for granted.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 25 July 2020 source ↗

Anne Enright Novelist and short-story writer

I was not great with my mother-in-law, who was a very gentle woman. I thought she would be an uninvited part of my life for ever, but she died early and I wished I had been more open and patient.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 7 September 2024 source ↗

Clara Amfo Broadcaster

I never said it out loud, but I had this “Why aren’t you like the other mums?” energy towards my mum. Now I am an adult, I am happy that she came here from Ghana and remained who she was, but for a long time I resented her.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 29 August 2020 source ↗

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Question What would you like to be remembered for? Death & what remains

I spent the earlier part of my life being late for everything, so there was a joke that my tombstone would read The Very Late Patricia Hodge.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 8 September 2018 source ↗

Question When were you happiest? Time & hindsight

In the minutes, hours, days and weeks after having my children. I was 42 and 45. There’s nothing like new life.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 8 September 2018 source ↗

Question What most recently made you cry? Identity & self

Two days ago, at a family wedding, remembering Richard, my cousin. He was 11 months younger than me and we were brought up like brother and sister for the first four years of our lives. He died of a brain tumour when he was 55.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 8 September 2018 source ↗