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My maternal grandmother, who lived with us for many years. I was a moody teenager and sometimes impatient and rude. Yet she was the person I feel I’m most like. I really miss her.
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I say it a lot to my kids when I’ve lost my temper, and I’ll save up a big one for when they are 18.
Mum, because I never really knew how to cope with her alcoholism.
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