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You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
To the people who, because of my career, I cannot spend time with. I have to be selfish, unfortunately.
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The people I worked with when I was in the final two years of my drinking.
To my cousin P, who was one of my best mates growing up. We lost him when we were in our 20s and, before he passed away, I was so busy with this stupid thing called life and a brand new kid. He called me and said: “Bro, I’m not feeling right.” And I said: “Bro, you’ve never been feeling right.” And it always sits on my head that if me or somebody else had been paying more attention maybe things would have worked out different. He had extremely rare bowel cancer and died five weeks later at 27.
I am mortified that we went into Afghanistan, promised to liberate the female population and, 20 years later, dumped them in a situation as bad, robbing girls of their futures.
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View profile →The realisation that I am not the best version of myself.
I'm tired, I'm not myself and I'm not enjoying the sport as I have done for the last decade. Some might recognise it as burnout; I just know that over the last few years I haven't had the answers.
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Public statement announcing his break from swimming, April 2023, The Independent, 1 July 2023
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As a great man.
When I lost that 100m final I spiralled. I went quite aggressive. It is an Adam I don't really recognise.
I was on a cliff in Dartmoor, doing a Royal Marine abseil. I fell upside down and thought, “I’m going to die here.”
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