Safety, and being able to be completely yourself.
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Falling in love is like going to the doctor and being told that you need to put on weight. You feel elated.
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I am happy to sit in silence with my wife and I think that is a good sign – we are just happy being in each other’s company.
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Like coming home.
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A warm blanket.
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