Connection, warmth, somebody you can trust and, quite happily, say nothing to.
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A longed-for, familiar shore at sunset.
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Amazing, all-consuming, overwhelming.
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In some way your life is doubled. You’re you and the other person.
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Real love feels like freedom.
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