People who speak with heavy American accents. I can barely understand them. No, seriously, dishonesty.
Recorded Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, July 2003 source ↗
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Cruelty, and also general rudeness and unkindness. I’ve always told my children: Don’t ever find entertainment in someone else’s discomfort.
Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, May 2024 source ↗
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Wow! Like, the way people mess up language. I mean, it makes me crazy, y’know?
Recorded Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, January 2022 source ↗
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Weakness – not to be confused with sensitivity, which is a superpower.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 16 July 2022 source ↗
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View profile →Jane Goodall. I got the chance to meet her a few years ago, and it was the thrill of a lifetime. When I was little, I wanted to be her. I thought she had the coolest life in the world.
Recorded Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, May 2024 source ↗
My wedding day, and when my children were first placed in my arms.
Recorded Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, May 2024 source ↗
My kids are in the house. I’ve been gardening in my vegetable garden. I have absolutely zero obligations or calls to return. Now I’m fixing dinner with music playing and having a glass of wine.
Recorded The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 30 May 2024 source ↗
When I’m feeling lazy and I sleep in too much.
Recorded Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, May 2024 source ↗
Losing a loved one.
Recorded Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, May 2024 source ↗
Kindness and laughter. If someone makes me laugh, I’m halfway in love.
Recorded The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 30 May 2024 source ↗
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