My default will always be to go for the worst-case scenario and that is something that I am unlearning.
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What is your idea of perfect happiness?
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Laziness, wasting time. I’d like to be able to make films faster.
Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, March 2010 source ↗
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Bruno Tonioli
Italian choreographer
I don’t think anyone should deplore anything about themselves. You can always improve things, but by deploring you’re putting yourself on a losing streak.
John Grisham
American writer and lawyer
Impatience; the inability to savor the moment.
My inferiority complex.
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First of all, I’d like to stop complaining—I’m beginning to annoy myself. I would like to learn to read faster, however. Again, the rest I’ve learned to live with.
When my friends and I were making Mean Streets, 1973.
I think you can strive to attain it, but be realistic about the outcome. In the meantime, I find I might be experiencing it through flashes or brief moments in love and art, and at times just being alive.
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