A willingness to come uptown.
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Originally asked
Vanity Fair, to its interview subject, The Proust Questionnaire
A fixed Vanity Fair Proust Questionnaire item asked across its three-decade archive, with independent variants in friendship and profile interviews.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
They’ll help me dump a body off the turnpike.
The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 18 July 2023 source ↗
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View all 65 →It’s hard to narrow it down, because I want them to have a bit of everything—humor, kindness, integrity, intelligence, tolerance (they need lots of that). But if I had to choose just one it would probably be loyalty.
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Brazilian footballer; three-time World Cup winner
Loyalty. Most of my friends have been around me for decades.
Their willingness to have me as a friend.
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I’m walking down the street angrily muttering to myself and then I run into a neighbor or former coworker and they catch me in this moment of private-public expression. It’s nice to be seen sometimes.
Best to leave things alone. Pull things out, it all comes down. I’m Jenga like that.
Enough with the constant smiling.
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