Ralf Little
English actor, writer, former semi-professional footballer
I wouldn’t have tried to break up a fight when I was 17.
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You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
I’d have gone solo sooner.
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Julian Clary
English actor, comedian, novelist and presenter
My education. Benedictine monks didn’t really prepare me for the life I have lived.
Shaun Ryder
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The 12 years I spent in receivership. That was me being a dick. I lost the court case when I wanted to sack my management and had to pay them £120,000. I said, “I am not paying you, because I should have won.”
Siri Hustvedt
American novelist, essayist, poet
I would have articulated aloud the comments I too often suppressed out of deference to arrogant, condescending, sexist bores.
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I am consistently disappointed in the music industry. Every time someone says that I’m underrated, that feels extremely disappointing because I’ve done my end of the bargain.
People who can’t wait to argue.
My mind is changing about being a mum. I got a dog and the way I feel about it is a lot, and I realise maybe I would want to be a mum.
I had some gynaecological issues that were very sudden, about 18 months ago, and felt that I might be dying. I wasn’t but it was quite serious.
Five to 10, when I was just playing out and I didn’t realise I was a girl. Before my boobs came in, basically.
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