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You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
People-pleasing.
Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, March 2025 source ↗
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View all 197 →Cruelty and not treating others as equals.
Indecision and wishy-washiness.
Snobbishness, superiority, condescension.
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Anyone brave enough to truly be themselves.
I’m terribly impatient.
Losing my mind.
Right now: Summer. Dusk. On my couch watching Australian Open tennis with my kids and dog. Doors wide open to a beautiful body of water. The first star of the night just appeared in the sky. Life is magical.
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