Caring too much about what others think.
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You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
Lying, unreliability.
Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, July 2022 source ↗
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People who pretend to have perfect marriages. Perfect marriages are like orgasms – many of them are faked.
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Being with my family and kids, on an island, eating and drinking.
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