My children, because I spent the majority of their youth away from them as I’m the breadwinner and I had to pay the bills.
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Back in the day, when comedy was crueller, my monologues were full of terrible jokes about people, and you can’t apologise because then you’re asking people to forgive you. Your punishment is to walk around knowing you said these horrible things.
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I never said it out loud, but I had this “Why aren’t you like the other mums?” energy towards my mum. Now I am an adult, I am happy that she came here from Ghana and remained who she was, but for a long time I resented her.
Archie Panjabi
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My dog, Mr Q, because he has the saddest look when I leave.
To everyone I’ve bored.
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Our wedding weekend in Ireland.
I was stabbed in my 20s. It was a late-night mugging and, while taking my wallet, they stabbed me in my chest.
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