David Ajala: How would you describe what love feels like to you? — FLAPSS

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How would you describe what love feels like to you?

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David Ajala

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Finding a tenner in your jeans pocket. It has always been there but you find it at the moment you really need it.

The Q&A, The Guardian, 18 October 2025 source ↗

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Tuppence Middleton

A perfect cup of coffee – warm, bittersweet, anxiety-inducing and delicious.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 9 May 2026 source ↗

Marie Kondo Japanese organizing consultant, author, and television show host

Warm and fuzzy.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 8 January 2022 source ↗

Gloria Estefan Cuban-American singer and songwriter

Comforting, solid, unconditional, a drug.

Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 15 June 2019 source ↗

Arlene Phillips

Like you’ve got hot-water bottles all over you.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 28 June 2025 source ↗

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Question How would you sum yourself up in three words? Identity & self

Curious, playful and silly.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 18 October 2025 source ↗

Question What worries you about getting older? Time & hindsight

I don’t think anything scares me. It’s a gift and I want to embrace it.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 18 October 2025 source ↗

Question When were you most embarrassed? Failure & regret

Helen Mirren was in the elevator with me at the National Theatre. She pressed the button but it didn’t move. I said, “Fancy seeing you here and being stuck in an elevator.” And she said, “Was that meant to be funny?” I apologised, and she laughed. Even talking about it now, it feels so awkward and embarrassing.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 18 October 2025 source ↗

Question Who deserves an apology from you, and for what? Failure & regret

To a resistant materials teacher at secondary school called Mr Noel. He had a comb-over and whenever he turned his back to write on the blackboard, we would roll up bits of paper and launch them at his head. Once, I hit him. I remember him turning around and looking crestfallen.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 18 October 2025 source ↗

Question What period or moment in your life brought you the most joy? Time & hindsight

When I was naive to the complexities of life.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 18 October 2025 source ↗

Question What is the worst job you have ever had? Craft & work

Telesales – having to sell terrible kitchens. I thought, maybe I’m not a good actor because I can’t even convince myself that these kitchens are worth paying for.

Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 18 October 2025 source ↗

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