What is the trait you most deplore in others?

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Recorded Charlie Munger said elsewhere, not written here
Generally speaking, envy, resentment, revenge, and self-pity are disastrous modes of thought. Self-pity gets pretty close to paranoia and paranoia is one of the very hardest things to reverse. You do not want to drift into self-pity.

USC Gould School of Law commencement, 2007, Speakola, 2007 source ↗

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Superiority. I shrink when I’m around people who act superior, whether it’s due to authority or intellect. I almost become mute.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 7 March 2026 source ↗

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Question How has a failure, or apparent failure, set you up for later success? Do you have a favourite failure? Failure & regret
Life will have terrible blows, horrible blows, unfair blows. Doesn't matter. And some people recover and others don't. And there I think the attitude of Epictetus is the best. He thought that every mischance in life was an opportunity to behave well. Every mischance in life was an opportunity to learn something and your duty was not to be submerged in self-pity, but to utilize the terrible blow in a constructive fashion.
Recorded USC Gould School of Law commencement, Speakola, 2007 source ↗
Question What advice would you give your twenty-year-old self, and what should they ignore? Time & hindsight
Luckily, I got at a very early age the idea that the safest way to try and get what you want is to try and deserve what you want. It's such a simple idea. It's the golden rule so to speak. You want to deliver to the world what you would buy if you were on the other end. There is no ethos, in my opinion, that is better for any lawyer or any other person to have.
Recorded USC Gould School of Law commencement, Speakola, 2007 source ↗
Question What is something everyone in your world agrees about that you think is wrong? Values & belief
I realized very early that non-egality would work better in the parts of the world I wanted to inhabit. What do I mean by non-egality? I mean John Wooden, when he was the number one basketball coach in the world. He just said to the bottom five players, “You don't get to play. You're sparring partners.” The top seven did all the playing.
Recorded USC Gould School of Law commencement, 2007, Speakola, 2007 source ↗

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