When I am in Italy with the family, not thinking about work.
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View all 585 →In my 60s. So many things that tortured me when I was younger have fallen away. Writing The Apology, the letter I wrote in my father’s voice, apologising for abusing me, has freed me from the last vestiges of anger, confusion, rancour and hate. It released me from a frame that had determined my life.
With time and experience you figure stuff out, so I am happiest right now.
When my daughter, Virginia, was born, in 1946.
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