Always saying yes to people. For example, I’m doing this.
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The Guardian, to a different person each week, The Q&A
The Guardian's The Q&A has retained this Proust-derived prompt from at least 2007 through 2026, and ABC independently put it to the Obamas in 2011.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
I don’t say that I’m perfect but there’s nothing that I deplore.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 2 August 2025 source ↗
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Short-term memory.
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Shyness. It really held me back when I was younger, and I wish it hadn’t. I do a better job of not being so shy these days.
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Lack of confidence.
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Gloria Hunniford’s wedding at Hever Castle 20-odd years ago. We had a lovely buffet and a few drinks and then I had to get a cab back to the train station. I said to the driver: “I’m ever so sorry, but I’m not going to be able to hang on till I get to the train. Could you possibly take me down this alleyway?” He said: “Yes, of course.” As I prepared myself to go “to the ladies”, this police car came along and the policeman said: “Hi-de-Hi!”
A hand-painted beaded dress from New York. It weighs about 16lb and cost me £4,000, 30 years ago.
Like you’ve got no other thought in your head.
We drift off to a beautiful place where we live a better, fuller life than what we’ve left.
People who aren’t kind enough.
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