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That they’re kind, trustworthy, smart, and can hear and communicate and aren’t afraid to do so.
The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 1 August 2013 source ↗
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Which quality in your friends matters most to you?Originally asked
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Discretion and good cheer.
A sense of humor and/or the ability to use a toilet correctly.
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That they don’t give a tinker’s damn about my celebrity.
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View profile →I don’t think so! You can’t really know that until the moment of your death, at which point you will probably not be afraid because you won’t be there. I have a very old friend who called me last year to say, “Okay I am done. I am not fighting this anymore. I am checking out. I am calling to say goodbye because I am not really conscious most of the time. I am cutting off the pain killers.” He seemed okay. That was not the moment of his death, but it was within two or three days.
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When I was an idiot high school student, as opposed to being an idiot adult, I used to drive very fast.
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Probably when our children were small, which is not to say I am unhappy now.
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