To fail better next time.
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You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
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View all 137 →That this was true, I owe to Montaigne. I can’t remember when I read, or was told, that he considered it a good thing to spend a short time every day thinking about death, thus getting used to its inevitability and coming to understand that something inevitable is natural and can’t be too bad, but it was in my early teens, and it struck me as a sensible idea. Of course I didn’t set out to think about death in a regular way every day, but I did think about it quite often, and sure enough, it worked.
To let things go.
You are good enough.
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Human, evolving and faithful.
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