What would you like to leave your children?

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So it seems to be my responsibility, particularly to my children, also to my wife and friends, is not to be Pollyanna and pretend everything's okay no one would take me seriously if I said that but it's to be as present in their lives now as I can be so that in years to come, they don't feel either guilty or bad at my having been left out of their lives, that they feel still a very strong not a memory of particular actions but a memory of a complete family rather than a broken one. That seems to be something I can do or try to do.

Terry Gross, Fresh Air, NPR, 29 March 2010 source ↗

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Exactly what my parents left me: the knowledge of the difference between good and bad and right and wrong. Everything else is entirely up to them.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 2 September 2023 source ↗

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I don't believe in an afterlife. I don't believe in a single or multiple godhead. I respect people who do, but I don't believe it myself. But there's a big but which enters in here. I am much more conscious than I ever was, for obvious reasons, of what it will mean to people left behind once I'm dead. It won't mean anything for me. But it will mean a lot to them. ... So in one curious way I've come to believe in the afterlife as a place where I still have moral responsibilities, just as I do in this life except that I can only exercise them before I get there. Once I get there, it'll be too late.
Recorded Terry Gross, Fresh Air, NPR, 29 March 2010 source ↗
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Recorded Terry Gross, Fresh Air, NPR, 29 March 2010 source ↗
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Recorded The New York Review of Books, 14 January 2010 issue, 14 January 2010 source ↗

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