I still say yes to too many things.
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The Guardian, to a different person each week, The Q&A
The Guardian's The Q&A has retained this Proust-derived prompt from at least 2007 through 2026, and ABC independently put it to the Obamas in 2011.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
I can be an overthinker and a vicious self-critic.
The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 15 March 2025 source ↗
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