Kevin Rowland
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My brother Pete passing on in 2005.
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Romantic love – what a con. (I do still believe in it.)
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My father’s death before my marriage and motherhood.
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When I got to 40 and realised I hadn’t read all the books I needed to read to understand the world.
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Sometimes it was disappointing not to have the fan base at home in the UK that we had elsewhere.
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I wish I’d told my mother that, in all the years I knew her, she was never once boring. We weren’t demonstrative, so that would have meant that I loved her.
In my first job in film, a giant bloke dressed like a sumo wrestler asked me to get his G-string out of his arse. He said he couldn’t reach it.
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I am going straight to cremation like David Bowie, so there would be no funeral.
The moment my daughter was born in 1999, because it took me seven years to conceive.
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