Who most deserves an apology from you, and why?

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Recorded Tracy-Ann Oberman said elsewhere, not written here
To my grandma Faye, because I didn’t realise, when I was growing up, what an icon she was. She fought at Cable Street, and worked her arse off to get the family out of the tenements. She had a lot of wisdom to impart.

The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 28 August 2021 source ↗

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Vick Hope British television and radio presenter
My younger self. I told myself so often that I was not good enough, that I was not smart enough, that I was not interesting enough, that I was boring and ugly. I wasn’t kind to my body, and I did and said things to myself that I would never do or say to a friend.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 6 August 2022 source ↗
Martin Freeman English actor
I say it a lot to my kids when I’ve lost my temper, and I’ll save up a big one for when they are 18.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 19 January 2019 source ↗
To my mother for disappointing her. Mummy wanted me to be a different sort of person from who I am, but one can’t change oneself.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 19 July 2025 source ↗
Clara Amfo Broadcaster
I never said it out loud, but I had this “Why aren’t you like the other mums?” energy towards my mum. Now I am an adult, I am happy that she came here from Ghana and remained who she was, but for a long time I resented her.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 29 August 2020 source ↗

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