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Arrogance, bullying, meanness – just try to be kind, it’s not difficult.
The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 11 March 2023 source ↗
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What trait do you most dislike in other people?Originally asked
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Arrogance and narcissism.
Careless cruelty.
Indecision and wishy-washiness.
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View profile →A couple of years ago we moved to East Sussex – I had been living in London for 35 years – and couldn’t work out why I kept waking up and thinking, what’s that sound? It was actually silence.
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After the birth of both my children, although Manchester United winning the treble in 1999 came pretty close.
Working in a very busy bar in the West End when I was trying to pay my way through drama school. I had to dance in a cage in a vest and cycling shorts to Venus by Bananarama, Greased Lightnin’ and Y.M.C.A. every night. It was excruciating.
Going to pieces while meeting John Squire, the lead guitarist of the Stone Roses, backstage after a gig. I completely lost the ability to speak. I told him I had the same guitars as he’d just used on stage, and when he asked me which ones, the words completely went out of my head and there was a huge pause, and then his wife tapped his shoulder and he wandered off.
Live in the moment. Enjoy life because time cruelly speeds up as you get older and becomes scarily finite.
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