The question

Which quality in your friends matters most to you?

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Vanity Fair, to its interview subject, The Proust Questionnaire

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Edmund Hillary

Mountaineer and explorer; first ascent of Everest, 1953

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I personally wouldn’t be, if I could possibly help it, involved in a serious pursuit in which there weren’t a few people who could laugh a bit about it. Because I can remember many occasions — maybe we’ve been stuck in a tent or we’re up on the side of a mountain, this heavy snow, avalanches all around us, and we can’t get up and we can’t get down, but we just sat in the tent and reminisced about occasions and days gone by and laughed about old jokes and all the rest of it. Then you really have a very good time, even though you’re sort of poised there between disaster both up and down. People who can make you laugh under those circumstances are very valuable indeed in an expedition.

Academy of Achievement interview source ↗

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Rita Moreno Actor, singer and dancer
That they don’t give a tinker’s damn about my celebrity.
Recorded The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 7 January 2022 source ↗
Unselfishness. I like to surround myself with people who are kind and have feelings for others and their problems.
Recorded The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 25 November 2001 source ↗
Pelé Brazilian footballer; three-time World Cup winner
Loyalty. Most of my friends have been around me for decades.
Recorded The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 1 April 2014 source ↗

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Question What worries you about getting older? Time & hindsight
I’ve been very fortunate in that respect. In the early days I liked to be the bomb of the expedition, and rush on ahead and do things faster than anybody else. Those days merged very pleasantly into periods when I organized and inspired expeditions and selected these younger people who were then the bombs of the operation. And then it drifted into this involvement with the people of the area, still loving the mountains, but finding the people just as important too. And on and on it’s gone. As I get older and less physically capable, I find other challenges have grown up and become just as important to me.
Recorded Academy of Achievement interview source ↗
Question What are you still hoping to finish? Death & what remains
As I’ve gotten older, my goals have become more solidified. My main concentration is on the welfare of the people I’ve worked with in the Himalayas and on human welfare in general. I’m also extremely interested in the environment and trying to encourage people to be more concerned about what we’re doing to our world. Now I’m just one of thousands and thousands of people who have these same views these days. I think this is one of the great steps forward we’ve seen in modern decades — the considerable growing interest that people have in the environment and in keeping it reasonably clean and wholesome. I certainly hope it remains that way.
Recorded Academy of Achievement interview source ↗
Question As a child, what career or life did you imagine for yourself? Identity & self
I really had no idea whatsoever. I feel that my life developed as I went along. I was never one of those people who, at an early age, had picked an objective and worked steadily towards it. All I knew was that I wanted to get involved in adventurous activity. I didn’t have any specific type of activity in mind, but I wanted to do things that were exciting and adventurous. I had a fairly diffused feeling as to what precisely it should be.
Recorded Academy of Achievement interview source ↗
Question What line from a parent, teacher, or mentor do you still repeat to yourself? Time & hindsight
My mother used to say to me a thing which, when I look back on it, wasn’t terribly logical. — and I had a pretty hearty appetite, but when I had had a large meal put in front of me, and even I couldn’t get through it, she would say, “Edmund, remember the starving millions in Asia.” Now what possible use my consuming it would do for the starving millions in Asia, I don’t really know, but the fact remains that I was brought up to think about the starving millions in Asia. That meant I had to clean my plate up and not waste it. Later on, I got more involved with the starving millions in Asia, perhaps in a slightly more practical way: helping some of them with schooling and hospitaling and even in agriculture.
Recorded Academy of Achievement interview source ↗
Question What counsel would you give your twenty-year-old self — and what should they ignore? Time & hindsight
I would advise them to aim high. To set their sights at a pretty tough target and don’t be too worried if you’re not successful at first. Just keep persisting and keep improving your standards, getting better and better and ultimately, you’ve got a pretty fair chance at achieving your desired goal. ... But, I do think that virtually everybody that’s born has the ability to be very competent at doing something. I think that, in itself, is worthy of aiming towards, just to be competent at doing anything you particularly wish to do.
Recorded Academy of Achievement recorded interview, American Academy of Achievement, 16 November 1991 source ↗
Question How much should instinct count in big decisions? Craft & work
I think it was a combination of feeling and judgment. I happened to be that sort of person that enjoyed making out plans, but I also enjoy changing plans. On an expedition, although I may start out with a detailed plan, I’m prepared to change it at any moment and completely redo it. So our expeditions turned out to be very adaptable ones. We achieved the final objectives just the same as many other expeditions, but maybe we had more fun in the process because it seemed something we could vary. We still carried on to achieve our major objectives.
Recorded Academy of Achievement interview source ↗

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