Either living up to or not living up to my potential.
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Originally asked
Vanity Fair, to its interview subject, The Proust Questionnaire
The exact prompt is fixed in Vanity Fair's Proust Questionnaire and independently sustained in The Guardian's The Q&A over multiple decades.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
It used to be loneliness, and it might still be.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 4 January 2025 source ↗
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View all 256 →Heights, and not getting along with people.
When I was little, a couple of rapes took place in Glasgow. I remember my mum saying to walk in the middle of the pavement, and to this day I am very conscious of where I am.
Losing consciousness or awareness.
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View profile →To be here in this one moment.
Like becoming warm after you’ve been cold.
Every morning when I go into our three-year-old’s room. He’s so happy to see you, it’s a moment of heaven.
My wife, just in case I’ve done something wrong.
I don’t know, and I’m completely OK with not knowing.
As someone who was kind.
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