What is the most important lesson life has taught you?

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Recorded Pete Rozelle said elsewhere, not written here
It was a very simple thing. It was a church camp, I think. I was there about two or three days, very young, and I just remember some counselor telling us that reputation is what people think you are, and your character is what you are. So if you have a bad reputation, you might as well have a bad character, and it pays to have a good reputation and a good character.

Rancho Santa Fe, California, Academy of Achievement, 15 May 1991 source ↗

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Diana Athill Editor and memoirist
That this was true, I owe to Montaigne. I can’t remember when I read, or was told, that he considered it a good thing to spend a short time every day thinking about death, thus getting used to its inevitability and coming to understand that something inevitable is natural and can’t be too bad, but it was in my early teens, and it struck me as a sensible idea. Of course I didn’t set out to think about death in a regular way every day, but I did think about it quite often, and sure enough, it worked.
Recorded The Guardian, 23 September 2014 source ↗
Ahmed Zewail Chemist; Nobel laureate in Chemistry, 1999
It was also evident to me that if you really want to achieve and do well in American society, you have to work, and work hard…You have to work, you have to work.
Recorded Heidi Aspaturian, Caltech Oral History Project, Caltech Archives Oral History Project, 2015 source ↗
Kevin Rowland British singer
Shakespeare said, “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so” – I think that’s true.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 9 August 2025 source ↗

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Question Which teacher, parent, coach or friend most made you who you are, and what did you learn from them? Relationships
My dad certainly, and coaches I had that I was very close to. They took a big part in my developing an interest in sports, actually. One has passed away I was very close to. His name was Bill Slybaum. He was my coach in junior high school for tennis and then he moved up the ladder academically and went to the high school about the time I got there. He was my high school coach in basketball. I became very close to him. Later on, when I came back after the service, I went to Compton Junior College near Los Angeles, and he was the junior college basketball coach. I was very close to him.
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Question Which writers or artists most influenced your work? Taste & recommendation
Oh, over the years, there are so many. One would be the man — I wanted to take his job away some day — Paul Zimmerman, sports editor of the L.A. Times. Jim Murray is writing for the Times now. Red Smith. I had the honor of meeting Grantland Rice way back when I was at the University of San Francisco. When we played New York in football back in 1951. Just a lot of good sports writers became friends of mine. And I respect them a great deal.
Recorded Rancho Santa Fe, California, Academy of Achievement, 15 May 1991 source ↗
Question What is the thing you are best at that nobody watching can see? Craft & work
The main thing is trying to be patient. Be sure to give them a chance to speak to the issue on both sides, and so forth. Then I would have a policy of taking straw votes, and seeing how close it was to passing, if I was trying to get it passed. And if it won by one or two, then you might recess, and then talk to those one or two, and see if they have changed their vote.
Recorded Rancho Santa Fe, California, Academy of Achievement, 15 May 1991 source ↗
Question What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you have ever made — of money, time, or energy? Money & investment
Never underestimate the power of an education. Everyone will tell you that, and you say, “Well, it’s not for me.” But if you can get it, it’s the most valuable thing you can get. Because it leads to happiness in your general life, and also can be your basis for a great vocation. Be patient. Learn to get along with people. It just doesn’t make sense to have an antagonistic personality. Try to get along with people. And when you have a project, prepare carefully for it. Prepare carefully.
Recorded Rancho Santa Fe, California, Academy of Achievement, 15 May 1991 source ↗

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