I used to be “Mister Disinvestment.” Now I would like to be Mister Investment and say, “Come! Come and be part of an exciting, exhilarating process. Come in! Come in on the ground floor and see a people do something that’s probably never happened before, people seeking to become something radically different from what their antecedents would have made us believe they were likely to become.

When I decided that Mavis Staples was right – I don’t need to despise myself.

The US election showed me that I had trapped myself in wishful thinking.

When I worked out I was gay and decided to leave the church at 29.

Dependency. Fascism.

When my kids were little – and now, in my old age.

“You’re a narcissist!” From someone who was a narcissist himself.

I will be dead, why would I care?

I would not leave my teenage children to follow an unworthy love. It lasted a month and scarred the family for ever.

To my first husband for being unfaithful, bossy, and eventually leaving him.