Siri Hustvedt
American novelist, essayist, poet
The man who asked me directions on the subway seven years ago: I am so sorry for sending you to Queens rather than to the Bronx.
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To my first husband for being unfaithful, bossy, and eventually leaving him.
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To my daughters and my partner, Tracey, for what I put them through with my transition.
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Some of my old teachers for disrupting lessons. I was the class clown.
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July 2018, when I married my third husband, Roger, after two years of proclaiming that marriage at 76 was stupid.
Impatience and being bossy.
When my kids were little – and now, in my old age.
I will be dead, why would I care?
A Tesla for my former husband. He didn’t deserve it.
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