An inability to see the other side.
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People who punch down.
Vanity Fair, The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, July 2025 source ↗
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This year's a pretty good year.
Oh, I have a long list. You should ask me what I like about myself—that list is much shorter.
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