A mix – safety to be yourself, acceptance, a feeling of peace and reliance, but also challenge, whether that’s intellectual or emotional.
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Adolescent love feels like exquisite self-indulgence. Long-term love feels like a warm bath that needs a trickle of extra hot water every now and then.
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Love makes me feel sick. I get sick with worry about my kids. It keeps me up at night.
It is all there is.
Like intoxication, sometimes followed by a hangover.
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An actor. Then I grew out of that and became one by default. Or sort of one: “Not really an actor”, said Michael Billington.
I’ll be at my happiest today, and probably my gloomiest at some point today, too.
Sorry, I’m British and middle class, so I’ve already apologised to virtually everybody I have ever met.
The next morning. It rarely turns out as bad as I think it’s going to be.
As a charming, helpful, solicitous, generous, loving, carefree and constantly funny companion, lover and father. Some hope of that.
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