What do you value most in your friends?

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Vanity Fair, to its interview subject, The Proust Questionnaire

A fixed Vanity Fair Proust Questionnaire item asked across its three-decade archive, with independent variants in friendship and profile interviews.

You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.

Recorded Sonia Sotomayor said elsewhere, not written here
Find the friends who do that. Find the friends who never tell you that you can’t do it, but who point you in the right direction, hold you when you fail, and push you when you need the push. Those are hard friends to value sometimes, but they are the best of friends.

M. Elizabeth Magill, The Commonwealth Club of California, 28 January 2013 source ↗

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Recorded The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 8 January 2019 source ↗

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