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Like something or someone is part of your DNA, the fabric of who you are.
The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 15 March 2025 source ↗
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Emma Barnett
British broadcaster and journalist
Very hard, meaningful kisses.
Robert Bathurst
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Unqualified. Also, there’s that strange moment when you’re listening to lyrics on Radio 2 and you think, “Ooh, that’s so deep”.
Patrisse Khan-Cullors
American artist and activist
Pride, joy and freedom, but also hard, a struggle and work.
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Scottish singer and songwriter; lead vocalist of Garbage
Like a cosy cloud of softness coupled with an orthopaedic mattress underneath.
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