Sensitive, kind, silly.
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Small, determined, lucky.
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Curious, kind and frustrating – because I ask too many questions.
Kind, funny, moany – I do love a moan.
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An inability to see the other side.
I can always see two points of view, which makes it hard to have a row.
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