Good memories. When I’m gone, I want them to feel that they were always my No 1 priority.
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A sense of what really matters.
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I want to leave my children three foundational tools to navigate the world:
Life skills: The practical capability and independence to take care of themselves, solve everyday problems, and handle adult responsibilities with ease.
Confidence: A self-belief rooted in resilience, knowing they have worth, deserve to take up space, and can handle failure without letting it define them.
A sense of humor: The ability to find levity in life's absurdity, laugh at themselves, and keep perspective when things don't go according to plan.
If they leave home with these three things, they'll have everything they need to build a meaningful life.
High self-esteem.
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“Oh, she giggled, didn’t she?”
Happy Day by Sarkodie. I’m half Ghanaian, and in Ghana funerals really are a celebration of life. You dance and sing; it’s just a completely different vibe to over here in the UK. I would hope at my funeral that everyone’s on their feet, having a good time.
I think that we dissolve into the soil and new things sprout from that.
An air traffic controller.
That fear and excitement sometimes feel quite similar and you can misinterpret one for the other.
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