Not getting into drama college in Dublin. I cut all my hair off as a sort of self-punishment for being crap.

Not winning Celebrity MasterChef. I am still gutted, despite many months of pretending to be fine with it.

I can't think of anything.

The outcome of the Leveson inquiry.

In my 30s, I was staring at a pair of expensive boots in a shop window when the photographer Gordon Parks came up behind me. He instantly understood, because he grew up even poorer than me; he made me buy them on my credit card.

As someone who left the world around me a little kinder and less hierarchical.

Feeling you want someone else’s welfare as much and sometimes more than your own.

Sometimes when I’m on a plane, as I often am, the weather is rough and we’re worried about going down. I think: If I hold the hand of the person next to me, I’ll be holding everyone’s hand. Like my dear friend, the late Wilma Mankiller, principal chief of the Cherokee Nation, I want to know: I’m going to the other side of the mountain.

I’ve had cancer three times, but never felt close to death except when I walked between parked cars on my street and a car sped past my nose.

Being a salesgirl in a baby shop where the others said things like, “He’s Jewish, but she’s American.” Also, after college, being a waitress in London, and trying to make change in the old money of shillings and pence.