When a relationship I’ve been invested in stops working. And yet, here I am, happy as you like.
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Too many of my friends, family and peers dying.
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The way I left English cricket. I was scapegoated for the Ashes tour in 2013-14 and there was a bitter battle between the England Cricket Board and me for a few years.
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