Cruelty to animals or children.
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Aside from a property, what is the most expensive thing you have bought?
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Who most deserves an apology from you, and why?
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What is the worst job you have done?
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If you could edit your past, what would you change?
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When were you happiest?
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Which moment embarrassed you most?
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A verbatim standing question in The Guardian's rotating Q&A questionnaire, documented across respondents and years.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
People who can’t hear other points of view. Absolute certainty always scares me a little.
The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 22 April 2023 source ↗
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I don’t like fake people, impostors.
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Meanness and lying.
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To my younger self. I was incredibly self-loathing and self-doubting, and I’m still undoing that damage 30 years later.
When I was about 18, I worked on the chicken counter in a large supermarket, and every morning I had to pierce 64 birds on to industrial skewers to load up the rotisserie. That was very grim.
My mother and my brother would still be alive. So much of my life has been coping with the grief of losing them.
The summer of 1997. My husband, who is an American, gave up everything to come and live with me in Edinburgh when we were students, and we were so skint but we had so much fun.
At a fashion show after-party in New York in 2004, my friend dared me to push her into the pool. I did, and you’ve never heard laughter die so quickly.
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