if there is anyone who’s telling you, “Here’s what you should do,” they are somehow lying to you
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The worst advice was to start a record label when I wanted to be a musician. It was smart advice. It could have made me more money, but it did not inspire me.
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Akio Toyoda
President of Toyota Motor Corporation, 2009–2023; chairman from 2023
The three phrases I regard as being taboo would have to be: (1) I’ll think on it and try to do better, (2) We’re doing that, too, and (3) We need more man-hours and money first. These are the three phrases we mustn’t use at Toyota.
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Toyota Group employee, Akio Toyoda’s Juku on Quality, Toyota Times, 27 December 2021
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J.K. Rowling
Novelist and screenwriter
I have to say that I can’t stand lists of ‘must do’s’, whether in life or in writing. Something rebels in me when I’m told what I have to do before I’m fifty, or have to buy this season, or have to write if I want to be a success.
David Lynch
Film director, screenwriter and painter
Be true to yourself. Find your own voice and be true to that voice. Never take a bad idea, but never turn down a good idea. And, of course, have final cut. And be true to the ideas.
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The rest should go to music education, since that’s what made such a difference in my life. I created a charitable trust called the Independent Musicians Charitable
Keep you uncorked, keep you unstuck, keep it flowing, keep the ideas going, keep the feedback, keep you in communication with your potential future customers for the book. I think it's a great idea.
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Kelly Irving, community interview transcript, Expert Author Community, 29 August 2025
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I don’t have any fears.
Like at the end of my life, when I can tell that I don’t have long to live, I want to be able to look back and go like, “Wow, I saw the world from many points of view. I did many different things.” That is such a top value for me.
In the end, I had to pay $3.3 million dollars to buy back that 90%.
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