Hilary Swank
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When things are disappointing, I know they are happening for a reason, so I try to find out why and learn from them.
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My biggest disappointment would be living with disappointment. What a burden to be shackled to. I would be truly disappointed if I didn’t (as the song says) pick myself up, dust myself off, and start all over again.
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